Showing posts with label emotion. Show all posts
Showing posts with label emotion. Show all posts

31 May 2026

#601 I am an asset to myself!

I Am An Asset To Myself!!

I don’t need anyone’s approval!


 

What is an asset??

According to the Oxford Dictionary, an asset is a person or thing that is useful to someone or something.

Please read it again. The definition itself associates an asset with a person or thing.

Is it true always?

What if you are not accepted by someone? Will you still be considered an asset?

Have you ever asked yourself these questions? If yes, you are not alone in this journey. If not, let’s explore what it exactly means.

Labels

As human beings, we often tag ourselves with certain labels. Those labels may be due to the remarks of your parents, teachers, friends, colleagues, boss, life partners, or anyone residing in your surroundings. Sometimes our past experiences, achievements, or current situations also create imaginary labels in our heads.

Those labels can be both positive and negative. How to check that?? Very easy. The remarks you get from your critics may not always be in your favour. Those can drain your energy, hence negative remarks. Some remarks can make you feel elevated and happy inside. Those are positive remarks.

What if you are not accepted by someone? Will you still be considered an asset?

My answer is YES.

No one is ever born on this earth without a purpose.

No one has the power to make you think that you don’t have any purpose in your life.

Most of the time, we as human beings seek validation in a relationship. The relationship does not always need to be romantic. It can be anything like parent-child, teacher-student, uncle-niece, and so on. When we are not seen, heard, or appreciated in that way, we feel devalued and not worthy of love.

When we try to attach our self-worth to another person’s perspective of us, we lose our originality. The authentic self is lost because it is dependent on someone else’s way of seeing you through their lens.

Apparently, we fall into the trap of appreciation and validation, which can sometimes be daunting as well. Of course, others’ perspective of framing opinion on you is neither in your control nor your responsibility to change.

What can we change then?

We can definitely change the way we think about ourselves, irrespective of others’ opinions. That’s what self-worth is. The more you are aware of your self-worth, the more you can remain calm and composed in any situation because you know that others’ opinions of you are not going to affect you or disturb your mental state in any way.

Working on yourself and your goal is the most difficult thing in the world because it comes with the acceptance that you acknowledge your flaws and you want to improve.

One thing I realise over the years: it requires a lot of patience and courage to change something within you that is stopping you from moving forward.

When you work on yourself with dedication, you start seeing the results. The results may not come overnight, but yes, it comes with some time.

Then confidence builds up within you, and you try to become aware of your self-worth. This awareness helps you set some boundaries between people in a healthy manner.

By following some healing modalities and manifestation rituals over the years, I feel calmness and stability within me. The courage to not accept the opinions of others about you is my takeaway from these daily practices.

Now, the reality has shifted for me, and I am starting to see the people the way they are.

No overthinking, no drama to change their perspective about me.

And this has given me the freedom to live my life on my own terms.

I’m embracing self-love.

I’m showing gratitude towards the adversities that happened in the past.

These compelled me to change something within me, and I could see the transformation.

I am in such a state of mind that I don’t really care whether I’m an asset or a liability in anyone’s life.

I’m an asset to myself. That’s enough for me to end my day.

 

SWETA SARANGI

ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

26–05–2026 

11 Aug 2016

#141 The first real love story I watched unfold

The first real love story that I watched unfold

Love is such a special feeling of being acknowledged by the partner. Love is immortal and pure. It has been very aptly said that when you love someone through your heart out, you don’t need to chase that person in reality. She/he gets pulled to you automatically. There is some kind of magnetic pull in it. This is what happens exactly in the love story which I am going to describe.  This is the first real love story that I have watched unfold.

Neelima is a girl who is carefree and friendly. She molds herself to any situation spontaneously. In reality, she is a friend of mine who is quite talkative and gets mingled with everyone quite easily.

Raj is a guy who is very reserved and opposite of Priya but becomes friendly after few interactions. How was it possible for them to be in a relationship and how did love groom among them? That’s what the whole story is about.

After completing 12th standard, my friend Neelima decided to pursue her career in Mining. She broke all prevalent prejudices by choosing her career in Mining which was thought to be a field of study for boys only. By being the only girl in her class, she became a topic of discussion and center of attraction for everyone. Everything was in its pace until the first year of engineering. Commencement of second-year unfolded many opportunities and excitements for her. She was completely unaware of the fact that someone special was going to enter into her life.  This was the year in which Raj got admission in her college in the same department. Neelima was the one who started talking with him casually like everybody. By being a shy person, he used to avoid her as much as possible. One day Raj was waiting for the bus at bus stop inside the college campus. Then his eyes fell on Neelima who had already occupied a seat near the window. Suddenly he turned back and did not board the bus with a fear that Neelima would talk with him in public so openly which would embarrass him.

One day Raj messaged Neelima regarding lab record. She agreed to give him lab record. By this way, they started messaging each other for some work. Raj used to send her funny messages and Neelima would love to read those. They started sharing their feelings and spent many hours texting each other.  During industrial training, they went to different locations. This made them realize the need for each other in life. They started missing each other but didn’t express till then. After returning from training, Neelima could not resist herself from expressing her love to Raj. She proposed him the best ever way by saying that, “You know what, there is some connection between us and we should remain in each other’s life forever.” And this is how a love story proceeds.

This post was written for the 'The first real love story I watched unfold' blogging contest by http://www.bonobology.com/ and http://writersmelon.com/

Sweta Sarangi
11-8-2015