The Permanent Roommate
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After staying with 16
roommates till now at different hostels (in different cities), Sarika started
developing a feeling of losing them which was something inevitable. This
gave her an idea of pondering about the permanent roommate; soulmate.
After all, at the end of the day, in this ever-changing world, finding someone
to rely upon completely is an obvious desire.
Sarika has always
wondered about the permanent roommate; her soul mate; how he might
look like, will he be prince charming? Will he be full of knowledge and
appreciation for all good things around, that she has always wished for? Will
he be mature enough to understand her as a person as her father does? Will he
be the most comfortable person for her to be with? Will everyday duties
and responsibilities of life get eased down with him through a true sense of
love, emotional intimacy, and understanding of every little thing around them?
Will her life just be straight out of any Hollywood movie where the expression
of love has been portrayed so immaculately? These were just a fraction of
several zillion thoughts going around in her mind at that point of time.
Sarika’s parents and sister started the
process of groom-hunting through a matrimonial site, even when she was not
fully prepared to get married as she was about to complete her Masters's and take
up the best available opportunity for her career. Her parents believed that
arranged marriage process takes time to get materialized into a marriage which
usually starts from matching the birth chart of both the candidates. During
those formal meetings which were of too-conservative-types for her, in which
either the match was fixed even without meeting the guy or not getting enough
space to interact personally with the guy, she realized that this process of
groom hunting was something not working in her case. Every time, these
matrimonial meetings were done at her native place which was around 1800kms
away from her place of work. Each meeting that didn’t turn out to be
successful was testing their level of patience (owing to long-distance travel)
and draining their resources like time, energy, and finance [Even though her
parents were okay with it as long as the right match was not fixed, they were
never in hurry]. So, she started to think about more practical and optimized
approaches to fixing this issue.
It is said that behind every successful man, there lies the strong support of a woman who has always believed in him when the world never had. A responsible lady is one who not only takes care of herself but also the needs of her husband, family, and everyone around. Sarika has always admired and followed those love stories where there has been mutual growth and those stories have prompted her to believe in the power and strength of this intangible emotion called 'Love'. She has always wondered about the lives of famous personalities who have been successful enough not only in their professional lives but also in their personal lives. That's where the concept of balancing these two spheres becomes of utmost importance. Those love stories which I look up to for inspiration are onscreen Dakota Johnson +Jamie Dornan, Mark Zuckerberg+Priscilla Chan, Narayan Murthy+Sudha Murthy, Sundar Pichai+Anjali, and her parents. She wanted to be like those ladies to become a pillar of strength for someone who has lost hope in his potential that once brought him all laurels( that he had always desired.)
The difference between
the above marriages and her parents was that her parent's marriage was arranged.
She always believed that achieving a sense of understanding and care in an
arranged marriage involves a lot of sacrifices when you don't know the other
person well. So, she has been a little bit skeptical about arranged marriage
for her generation but perhaps it was what was destined for her and she has to
accept it the way it is. Perhaps it is going to change a lot of predefined notions
and concepts from her mind.
The image of marriage
in her mind has always been a love one as she has always wanted to be a very
independent woman, capable of finding her own life partner. This image of
marriage that she had in her mind during her childhood started to get hazy in the coming years when her confidence got shattered due to a series of continuous
failures. She has always thought of setting an example to the world by her love
story but little did she know that destiny had a different plan for her.
................................…………..To be continued…………………….
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Swati Sarangi
18.12.2021
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