4 Nov 2025

#599 Different Question Papers

 Different Question Papers

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I have given many exams, either as a student or as an aspirant, in my life. One thing that I learned from it is that I lost fear of facing them because I followed certain principles and stuck to them till the end.

From an early age, I’ve never lived to impress anyone. So, that never put any pressure on me to go against my principles, which always carried honesty. Think of it as a hereditary trait.

I have always stood against any form of cheating, even if it meant failing in the exam. There had been many instances, especially during midterms during my college days, when almost the entire class would copy and score a decent score when I would struggle to reach that score. All of us knew that we lacked guidance and resources to learn that subject, but I believed that if I put effort into understanding the subject, I could score well.

A poorly performed answer sheet of mine didn’t make me sad, for two reasons. First, I wanted to evaluate my understanding of that subject, which could help me improve. Second, it showed my honesty and level of preparation.

I knew that if I went for shortcuts like copying or resorting to illegal means to score, I might altogether lose the ability to learn. That’s the reason why I could appear for some competitive exams and cleared some rounds, while many of my friends, who relied on scoring through cheating, didn’t dare to even sit for those exams.

Life is a marathon, not a sprint, and shortcuts are like easy choices, like cheap dopamines offered to us in the form of distractions by social media.


Copying during an exam was possible when the question paper was the same, but what about the biggest exam called life, where all of us have been given entirely different question papers? Even your sibling has a different question paper from yours.

Each question paper is unique, and the circumstances that we face in our lives are the questions to be attempted. How we react to those circumstances is our response or answer to the questions.

Here’s an analogy that my mind has found:

Exam → Life
Questions Paper → Challenges
Questions → Circumstances 
Answers → Reactions

Where the result of this exam is decided by the teacher, the one who has designed this question paper. He/She must be higher in the hierarchy of knowledge or experience than us; that’s what makes him/her eligible to set the question paper.

Unlike the exam of college exams, the one who cheats fails in this exam because he is unaware of the fact that everyone’s question paper is different.

The level of difficulty of the questions is the same for everyone, but it appears to be difficult or easy to others based on their perception.


Many people think that their life has been full of difficulties or challenges, while others’ pains are manageable for them, but they’re completely unaware of the silent battles that everyone is fighting each day.

While comparing their lives with others, people think that others are in a better position than they are, but while comparing the pain, it’s the opposite thinking; they think they’ve endured more pain in their lives than others.

Let’s talk about the reality. There’s no one whose life is devoid of challenges. All of us have challenges in our lives, and they might not be the same for everyone. One might face financial problems, while others might be unlucky in terms of getting favorable outcomes, and the third person might be dealing with some health issues. Imagine the level of comfort that you can offer to others by showing a bit of empathy instead of thinking that you have won greater battles in your life than they!

The level of difficulty of challenges that one faces in their life increases with age and experience. She/he grows through these difficulties and finds a coping mechanism in the process of facing them.


Comparison is the thief of joyTheodore Roosevelt

The only comparison that can lead us anywhere is comparing with yesterday’s self.

We should ask ourselves, “Am I better than yesterday?” If the answer comes out in affirmation, then you’re on the right track.

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#598 Room No - 432

 Room No - 432

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This post is a part of Blogchatter Half Marathon 2025 

It was the day of campus placement, and just like every final year student, Saloni reached the college Auditorium hall in time to attend the sessions of placement drive.

Her diligent preparation made her confident in her knowledge and skill. She could answer every question asked to her satisfactorily.

As expected, when she found her name in the list of selected candidates at the end of the day, she called her parents first to share this news, and all of them were over the moon!


There came the day of leaving the city and moving to her workplace. With a heavy heart for leaving her parents and a lot of excitement about her future, Saloni bade goodbye to her parents until they met the next time.

Everything seemed so alluring to her as she looked through the window of her moving cab when it crossed innumerable branded outlets of apparel or footwear.

After around 45 minutes, the cab dropped her in front of a giant gate that was supposed to be her destination. She was amused to witness the largest training center of IT, where she would be enrolled.

Inside that giant gate, beautiful and sophisticated tall buildings lurked. Such a scene was enough to uplift her spirit and trust in her future, which seemed so promising.


After completing all the formalities of joining, she was allotted a room, which was a room on the 4th floor, room 432. She tried to recall the familiarity of that number, and to her surprise, her spiritual self recognized it as the frequency of Om.

She perceived it as a sign from the Universe to welcome her into this new venture in her life. The cozy interior of the room gave her a homely feeling. “Wow! A home away from home”, she exclaimed with joy.


As the days progressed, so did the stress of the training. She tried to cope with the tasks and assignments that would make her return to her room exhausted until she fully collapsed onto her bed.

Every night, she would feel her roommate entering the room around 11 pm and leave the room early morning. It didn’t create any kind of suspicion in her as the trainees were allowed to use the resources of the training center till midnight.

Upon special requests, some of the training centers would open an hour earlier than usual to prepare for the training exams. So, leaving room early wasn’t something she found unusual in the case of her roommate.

So, Saloni never got a chance to communicate with her roommate. Days passed, and she got even busier with the preparation of the final test. On being requested by her batchmates to know about her roommate, she waited for her during the weekends, but she didn’t come.

Saloni thought that her roommate must be a localite, leaving nearby, who might be visiting her family during weekends.


It was the last day of the training session, and job locations were allotted to the trainees. It was the last time the trainees of a batch saw each other; they may or may not have met in the same office.

Saloni wanted to meet her roommate once before leaving the training. She enquired at the administrative block. What shocked her the most was the reply of the guy at the administrative block, who, after searching on his computer, said that room  432 was just assigned to Saloni and no one else.

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 Swati Sarangi
 12.10.2025

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2 Nov 2025

#597 Empathy in Relationship

 Empathy in Relationship

This post is a part of Blogchatter Half Marathon 2025 

Empathy is an important ingredient of any relationship. Being empathetic means being able to put yourself in the other's shoes. It might sound so easy, but it could be so challenging in the real world, especially when there’s always a comparison with others.

Funnily, a set of people exists who think their life has been full of struggles, while others are always vacationing. They think they’ve won greater battles in their lives than others.


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To discuss more about empathy, I am reminded of a beautiful story that I read during my school days, and it was one of my favorite stories.

The title of the story was The Letter by Dhumketu. If you had been a student of the CBSE board, you must have read it.

The protagonist was a coachman named Ali, who was a very skilled hunter in his past. After his daughter, Mariyam’s married a soldier and relocated to Punjab with her husband, Ali visited the post office every morning before sunrise to get the letter from her daughter.

Ali’s regular visit to the post office without caring for the adverse weather made him a subject of discussion for the postmaster and other clerks, as he never got a letter from his daughter.

On forseeing his death, Ali handed five gold coins to the clerk of the post office and asked him to deliver the letter of Mariyam to his grave.

Years later, when the Postmaster’s daughter was studying in a different city, and he had to spend sleepless nights waiting for the letter from his daughter to know about her well-being, he realized the pain of Ali, being separated from his daughter.

He decided to amend his ways and hand over the letter to Ali personally, but it was too late.


The Letter is not just a story but a scene that applies to today’s scenario too. The difference is that the letter has been replaced by the mobile phone.

One of the viral videos on social media showed the pain of a father's separation after his daughter was married. A lift operator was seen looking at his mobile phone, not a smartphone. When asked by the person in the lift about what he had been doing, he replied that he had been waiting for his married daughter’s call to find out about her well-being after his son-in-law had left for work.

Why do some men, particularly married ones, feel insecure about their wives maintaining a close bond with their fathers? Why does society expect women to distance themselves from their families after marriage?

Just as men have parents who raised them, their wives also have parents who did the same for them. Marriage should be about uniting both families, not prioritizing one while neglecting the woman’s side.

In my opinion, if someone truly loves and respects his/her parents, he/she will respect anyone in his/her parents’ age group, let alone in-laws. If his/her relationship with his/her parents is not healthy, he/she needs to heal it before disrespecting anyone of his/her parents’ age.


One never understands the situation of others until he/she is put into the same situation. Until then, others’ situations always appear like a piece of cake to him/her.

Life is a harsh teacher; it will never make its lessons easier until one learns from their mistakes and promises to never repeat them.

Let us be a little kinder or more empathetic today by being observant of our surroundings before life makes us experience what Ali once did, as it did with the Postmaster.

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31.10.2025 


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