#57 Reasons to be happy

Reasons to be happy

We live in a world with a pack of things to be done. We are virtually trapped in the cobwebs of competitions and ambitions. We hardly devote any time to those things which make us happy. Have we ever tried to come out of these complexities and adopt some measures that would make our life simple and free from any kind of tensions? In fact, we are more concerned with dwelling deep into the problems rather than taking it lightly and letting it go unnoticingly. Our brain is a tank where we mix much stuffs rigorously. We forget that it has got a limited capacity for accommodation. We keep on carrying the loads of miseries, failures, betrayal for long . With further passage of time, these feelings take a shape of a giant and ultimately it becomes all most impossible to get rid of it. Before making it grow out of control, some steps should be taken to curb it. .

Happiness is a deep feeling of contentment. It is always accompanied by internal peace. It is related to the level of satisfaction of a person. A person can be happy with or without any reason. One cannot search for reasons all the time. It is very aptly said by Dalai Lama “Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions”. In fact, we are the ones who define any criteria for happiness. No one can instruct us what to do, when to do and how to do, we can only take their advises. Outcome is the result of our deeds. And later, the question of the level of contentment arises.  We bound our thinking process and limit our imagination to such an extent that anything deviating from this level cannot make us satisfied. We are tired of the truth and dare game of life and feel relaxed on being making ourselves expel from such a game.  Below some ways are mentioned through which we can be happy-

1) Keen Observer: To be happy, we should be a keen observer. By observing many things clarifies doubts that arise in our mind. When we are able to feed answers to our mind, we are left with no further questions and feel relaxed and happy.

2) Search for Interesting things around: Sometimes, the things happening around can fascinate us and draw our attention. In that case, one can find those to be interesting and hence it adds happiness to your life.   

3) Nature and its elements: Mother Nature has got all the elements that can attract us to its beauty. The flowing river, chirping of birds, breeze, slow movement of leaves, formation of clouds on sky, the scene of sunset and sunrise are more than enough to bring eternal peace. Daily spending one hour to see these naturally occurring phenomena can make one free from tension and provides immense pleasure.

4) A smiling face: Smile is a curve that glorifies face. A Smiling face becomes a center of attraction. It sends a positive signal and able to communicate with others in an efficient way.

5) Passion for hobbies: Nurturing hobbies can be considered as a best way to keep you live and create a long lasting effect on mind and body. When we engage ourselves to some useful tasks or constructive works, then we forget all other things that are creating troubles for us and we immerse ourselves fully in pursuing those works. It not only helps in relaxing ourselves but enriches our existing interest. We are satisfied internally.  

6) Healthy interaction with others: Developing a healthy interaction with people around you can heal your mind and soul and hence it will help to foster a strong bond. You compel yourself to open up and share your feelings, ideas, thoughts and emotions. When you feel that your voice is being heard and respected, a sense of satisfaction is experienced.  

7) Introspection and meditation: Communicating with oneself is an important factor which contributes to happiness. What we expect from ourselves is known to us in a better way than anyone else. Meditation and introspection helps to improve our vision towards achieving goal. We become clear of our objectives and transparent to ourselves.

8) Detachment from results: We can experience happiness by detaching ourselves to the result. Results are the consequences of our efforts and sometimes we overcome our expectations and sometimes not. If we keep on guessing the result, we will get exhausted completely in a short span of time. Guessing results creates a barrier in mind and it also conflicts the thinking process. Hence we cannot remain happy for long.

9) Complimenting others: The act of complimenting others gives immense pleasure. It shows that we are concerned to the person particularly, that’s why we are appreciating the work. By this way, it excavates the positive nature. Admiration helps in viewing the positive side of any person.

10) Gratitude: We are having more than what we know. This is a thought of being grateful to the almighty. We are constantly being helped by many people. We should be grateful to those who encourage us to do something in life. Showing gratitude to the near ones in life will broaden the relationship with them and make you feel happy.

Happiness doesn't depend on any external conditions; it is governed by our mental attitude. You outshine when you have control over your emotions. Happiness is something that can be found in every corner of the world at any interval of time. One needs to have a closer look to it. Happiness will definitely come if you make yourself loose (not to hold tightly) and make your mind a free bird that can navigate all most anywhere. In the end, I would like to share a quotation of Oscar Wilde, “Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.”

   To be happy, count blessings and forget what you are missing.

SWETA SARANGI

4.4.2014